A new look for 2012








Some days you just wake up and decide that you’re going to chop all your hair off.

Since I’ve already done 2012 updates on my travel plans and my work situation, I figured that it would only be fair to give you a bit of a hair update, too.

After lamenting how much of a pain it is to grow your hair out (which is what I was impatiently doing), I decided that I wanted to start 2012 anew. Pourquoi pas? I’ve been thinking about going really short for a while now, and quite frankly was a bit tired of my dredlocks.
It was a meetup on Wednesday with the lovely Milla (who blogs about her London and formerly Paris exploits at Not Just Another Milla) that sealed the deal.  As our lively conversation drifted toward hair and I briefed her on my flirtation with going short and sassy, she referred me to her trusted stylists at a salon in London.
On Thursday I made an appointment for the following day, Friday,  and enjoyed my last hours with swinging, collarbone-grazing hair.

And then I got impatient. And scissor happy. Not wanting to wait until the next day to do the big chop, I decided to cut the bulk of my hair off myself.  What fun!

Today I made my way to Hype Coiffure and had a professional shape and refine my cut. What do you think?

It is super duper short but I think I love it. I love having hair that air dries in less than five minutes.  My hair is also very soft- such a switch from the dredlocks! While my head feels bizarrely light and I catch myself flicking hair back that isn’t there, I don’t miss my dredlocks or length AT ALL. This may be because I’m no stranger to extremely short hair – I had this exact same haircut back in 2001.

Me and Liebling’s hair- almost the same length!

What does Liebling think, you ask?  As he’s a fan of long hair, this is not his fave hairstyle.  But as he is lovely, supportive, and knows that I haven’t changed just because my hairstyle has, things are peachy keen on the home front. He’s reassured me a zillion times that I am still beautiful. That being said, while it is important to me that he likes the way I look, I know that I am happy within myself and 100% confident about my decision to cut my hair. Funnily enough, while he is a lover of long locks, he’s been randomly palming my head- he’s fascinated with the spongy feel of my loose hair since he’s only known me with dredlocks!

So there you have it. My hair update!


Have you ever done something drastic with your hair?  What, why, and what was the reaction of your friends and loved ones?




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56 Comments

  • Beatrice says:

    Tu es belle! Guapa! :) short hair brings out your features and it's a confident sassy style ! 2012 is a good year for us chica!

  • Mrs. Pancakes says:

    oh my goodness…you look so chic!!

  • Diary of Why says:

    You are just that lucky kind of gal who looks beautiful no matter what you do with your hair.

    And the new do suits you.

  • Jamila says:

    You look beautiful! And it's always so nice to have a loving supporting partner who thinks your gorgeous with long locks or a teeny-baby fro.

    Did you have a color in your hair when you had the locks? They look sandy brown in the picture up top (and I like the color) but darker below. Or is that just the lighting of the room?

  • Rhona says:

    I LOVES! You are so cute. I love your hair. I prefer shorter hair because it is so easy to maintain. Good choice. It suits your face.

  • Teresa says:

    You look fantastic! I like the new look a lot. I have had hair that short (shorter, actually…um, bald) but in my case it was forced on me because of chemo. Still, when it started growing back in I did really like the short, short style. And I definitely miss being able to have my hair done in about 30 seconds. Hmmm…I may have to go back to it. You're starting a trend! ;-)

  • Tanya says:

    O,

    You have the head shape for short hair and the neckline. Not many women can get away with it. You, Halley and Toni Braxton! Also, you have the ears too!

    T

  • Tanya says:

    O,

    You have the head shape for short hair and the neckline. Not many women can get away with it. You, Halley and Toni Braxton! Also, you have the ears too!

    T

  • notjustanothermilla.com says:

    L-O-V-E!!!! Your new, shorter style suits you. Liberating, isn't it? You really are a wash & go girl now :-)

    I just knew the allure of those scissors would get to you! I'm happy Hype was able to help!

  • Anonymous says:

    Good for you Oneika, the name of the salon is what has be laughing. Is it really a hype salon? lol.

    Jules

  • Anonymous says:

    You look gorgeous!! The cut suits you very well. By the way, new reader here. I may or may not have read your whole blog ;) you inspire me with your travels and fearlessness :)

  • Emm says:

    I like this look the best! You look lovely!

  • Crystal says:

    I think you look great and can totally pull off the short look. I must admit I'm jealous you can just wash and let it air dry! If I did that, it wouldn't be pretty!

    Congrats on going for a big change…I chickened out at the salon yesterday…was going to cut it short (shoulder length in an angled bob) but decided to just trim up the ends and get a fun new colour. And like Liebling, Max is a fan of long hair too :P

    Tres belle!!!

  • Monique says:

    I love it. Welcome to the girls-rocking-short-hair club.

  • Oneika says:

    @Beatrice: Merci! J'ai trop hate de voir ce que 2012 nous rapporte!! Faut me tenir au courant :-0

    @Mrs. Pancakes: Thanks so much!

    @Diary of Why: Merci Rachel! Aww!

    @Jamila: Thanks! I'm lucky L is so darn supportive. That's my natural colour, my hair is this really weirdish brownish colour that gets even browner in the sun! I've never dyed it before but have thought of doing it often- I long for jet black hair, it looks so sharp! My hair colour always makes my hair looks a little dull and "dusty"..

    @Rhona: Thank you chica! Another plus is that you barely have to use any hair products when it's this short lol

    @Teresa: So sorry that you lost your hair because of chemo but it's awesome that you embraced it! No reason that you can't go back to having it short, this time voluntarily… :-)

    @Tanya: Thank ya! Hilarious but I don't think anyone has complimented me on my ears before- I tend not to think about them hee hee. :D

    @Milla: Thank you SO much for giving me the info! After our inspiring convo on Wednesday I just knew that I had to make a change. We must hang out next week if you're free!

    @Jules: Well, they did a pretty good job, so I'd have to say it *was* pretty hype! :)

    @Anon: Yay! Thanks for reading and commenting! Glad that you saw something you liked and hope you'll stick around :-) When is your next trip!?

    @Emm: Thank you! I think I'll keep it this way for a while :-)

    @Crystal: I saw your pic on FB and you look stunning; I love the contrast of your new colour with your eyes. You're petite and gorgeous so you can pull off just about anything, but I really enjoy this auburn colour on you! As for the length, you can cut it whenever but once you cut it it's gone! So take your time!

    @Monique: Yay!!! Dankjewel!

  • Ashley says:

    Cute!!! And yes, I've chopped my hair very very short before (think Meg Ryan)…that's pretty short for a white girl! ;)

  • Try Anything Once Terri says:

    Wow! Look at you! I think you look great. I think you have the perfect face to rock a short 'fro. Even at my shortest I could still twist my hair. I think I might be going the other way and growing my locs really, really long.

  • B says:

    It looks awesome!

  • Emily in Chile says:

    It looks great – very sophisticated. I wish we were together so I could pat your head too :)

  • Ekua says:

    You really can pull off any length of hair! My most drastic hair move was chopping my hair off when I went from relaxed to natural. That was back in '06, crazy to think it's been that long!

  • withinireland says:

    post first serious breakup, i decided i was going to look 'hot' by cutting it all off. it looked alright the first day – when the stylist styled it – but it took over eight months to grow back to something i could manage. EIGHT MONTHS. it was such a backfire move!

  • liveletlive says:

    you look fab! Having a gorgeous feminine face definitively helps! ;)

    I know I couldn't do it though. I've been mistaken for a boy with long hair, so short hair wouldn't do me any favors!!!

  • Butterfly Kisses says:

    I love it!! :D

    I cut all my hair off when I went natural back in 2006. My mom and all my friends freaked out!! Which was weird, because my hair was never long to begin with, but eventually they got over the shock and learned to love it like me. :D

  • Oneika says:

    @Ashley: Whoa that is short! I was just telling Liebling yesterday that in the black community chopping one's hair off really short is not such a big deal since us black women do soooo many different things with our hair anyway! I think it's a cultural thing? You have great features so I'm sure it looked fantastic!

    @Terri: I'm pretty sure that I'm gonna grow out my hair again but it's always that "in-between" stage that gets me!! I'm definitely going to get locs again though and will try to grow them super long… I love the way yours look!

    @B: Thank you!

    @Emily: Thanks! I feel like it looks a lot neater and professional now for some reason! By the way did I tell you we're going to be in Peru over Semana Santa?! If you and Rodolfo are free you should join us! Then you can pat my little afro in person… LOL!

    @Ekua: Thank you! The first big chop I did in 2001 was also when I made the move from relaxed to natural, can't believe it was so long ago!

    @withinireland: Ooh!? Was this when you broke up with Navy guy?! You must spill the beans when I see you on Saturday!! You should have worn a wig until it grew out… LOL!

    @liveletlive: Somebody mistake YOU for a boy!? They must need glasses! Thanks for your compliment, I am blushing, but seriously I think that the key to rocking short hair and rocking it well is confidence!

    @ButterflyKisses: I think back in the day it was pretty taboo in the black community to go natural- going short and natural was even worse! I know that my family totally freaked out when I got my tweeny weeny nappy afro back in 2001… It was just too shocking for them I guess! Now that natural hair is really widespread I don't think it's such a big deal anymore!

  • Kourt says:

    My drastic hair style change was when I went natural. I had stopped using perms for a few months before the big chop. My friends at college were excited because most of them were natural, my mother loved it so much that she tried it. However, my sisters and people I knew from high school were not a fan. I did it back in '05…6 years natural, can't believe it's been so long :)

  • Nadeen Cummings says:

    You look great!! I transitioned before I did the Big Chop! Also, I love your blog you really inspire me to see this planet!

  • sprite says:

    Wow, you look regal!
    Brave and beautiful look girl, you are rocking that short do.
    However I do miss your locs; probably because I have been toying with the idea of sisterlocs for a while now. Only held back by the lack of good, loctitians in UK (or London area).
    Enjoy your do – if you get bored with it what next?
    PS: This may sound controversial but if my man prefers a certain style I do try to accomodate his preference. I don't think it makes me a walk-over or that it suggests my relationship is based on superficial things. Reality is men are visual so my wanting to be appealing to him is part of the compromise. I look at it as a 50-50 deal. I also expect my man to look good..Doesn't mean we don't love each other nor does it mean if my looks change for a reason (eg childbirth etc) then he would leave me or vice versa.

    Hey just my honest opinion, I do have a few ideas that may be slammed by feminists but thats for another day, lol
    PPS: You couldn't look bad in a brown sack girl:)

  • Deidre says:

    It looks fab! I love it – and you look stunning, totally stunning.

    IC prefers my hair curly – which is convenient as i hardly ever straighten in, but sometimes I feel like…so i do! It can't be helped!

  • kvowels says:

    Love it! As I said on Twitter, you look lovely w/any long or short hair. I have cut my hair short (relaxed) just like yours. I didn't care. My boyfriend (at the time) liked it, but I did it for me and transitioned to natural. For me it's just hair. I love my hair but I have no problem cutting it short. I LOVE short curly hair. Oh, and I feel a big chop (#2 official) in my distant future :)

  • Kathrin says:

    You look absolutely stunning!It brings out your beautiful eyes even more. Did you never watch the movie "Good hair" by Chris Rock?

  • kay* says:

    Chica! You know us black girls can tend to have "hair issues" so I love how you see it as just that – hair – and were able to embrace such a fierce new look, Chica you are an inspiration in SO many ways! Love it.

    And ummm seriously, Liebling just scored major MAJOR points in my book :) You know, not that he needs to score points in my book but – I'm just sayin'

  • kay* says:

    Oh and what better way to start 2012 with a new look! Loves it.

  • Quiana says:

    You look fantastic! Something must be in the air cause I chopped mine too after swearing I was never gonna do it again. Oh well! It's just hair, it grows back, right? Have a wonderful New Year =)

  • Anonymous says:

    Looking so good! I did the big chop in early 2006, and then about a week ago cut my hair that I had been growing out for the past couple of years. My motivation was BAD split ends, lol. This time a trim was nt going to help, so I did a short cut; I did not go as short as you though. Though now I am tempted :-) It looks so beautiful!

    Ajoa

  • Oneika says:

    I love love love your natural hair, it's so spongy and perfect! I remember when I first started reading your blog that I used to covet your hair… Anyway, I think people are reticent about doing the big chop moreso because your hair will be short rather than the fact that your hair will be nappy. What do yout hink?

  • Oneika says:

    Thanks so much Nadeen! I guess I could have grown it out a bit more before cutting off the locks but I was just too impatient… :-0 No regrets!

  • Oneika says:

    I completely understand what you mean! I know that I wear certain things that I know Liebling will like… I know that L likes long hair so I was really trying to hang on and grow it out… But at the end of the day, it's my head and I wanted a change! I had to do what was right for me, and even though he doesn't particularly like the style, he understands that I had to do what I had to do.. :-0

    I'm definitely gonna get locs again but I can't wait to play around with my hair as it grows!

  • Oneika says:

    Aww, thanks lady! Sometimes I think I look like a boy, but I'm totally cool with that. I love your curls and it's such a great look on you, but understandably you'd want to change it up a little bit, that's the beauty of choice!

  • Oneika says:

    LOVE this comment! It's all about doing things for you and keeping yourself happy! Go for the big chop!

  • Oneika says:

    Thank you!! You know, I've never seen the movie but you're the second person to mention it to me in the last couple of days! I must watch it!

  • Oneika says:

    Awww thanks girl!! I think that us black girls have a lot of hang ups (both about short hair and nappy hair) so I'm glad that us sistas can appreciate the beauty of a teeny weeny afro!! And yes, he doesn't neccessarily need to score points in your book, but I'm glad that he has… :)

  • Oneika says:

    Exactly! Hair does grow back! Cut it if you're feeling to do it!

  • Oneika says:

    Thanks Ajoa!!! I think that healthy hair is sooo much more important than long hair, which is another reason why I chopped!

  • Anonymous says:

    Love the look on you!!!you're really pretty so your hair style really doesn't matter, your face trumps any hair style…I hope to get the courage to go so short soon.

  • April D. Thompson says:

    Glad you did it! Looks so good!

  • This Time Now says:

    Simply beautiful.
    You are not "brave" (as some other commenters have stated) for simply cutting your hair. It look great. Tout simplement! Next time you're in Paris, we have to get together. Bisous!

  • Nadeen Cummings says:

    No regrets here either! I tell everyone, I should chopped my hair off years ago! I love being natural.

  • Oneika says:

    Aww thanks! Do it!

  • Oneika says:

    Thanks, April!

  • Oneika says:

    haha merci! It's not a question of courage for me, but I can understand that for others, cutting their hair (which is often a security blanket!) can be a huge step!

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